I owe you nothing… if I choose to include you it is because I value you and I want to share my time with you. If at any point I cannot share my time with you (wether it be because at that moment I’m not willing too or because I’m not able) is irrelevant.

I understand there is life going on, self love, responsibilities, the everyday in’s and out’s.. memories being made, families to take care of… I get it completely and I wish that it would be universal knowledge.

Unfortunately many of times we are met with a selfish response… anger, pain, frustration, disappointment even rage. When we do not jump for someone who asks, instead of understanding, patience and love. This is however the conditioning of the old ways. Some may never escape it.

I do not tolerate that in my life, especially under the guise of love. It isn’t love as a matter of fact if we want to classify it as love it would fall under the selfish love category.. you know the love I’m talking of… the one where it’s demanded to always someone else’s needs before your own, unfortunately it’s never truly reciprocated.

I am simply not at that place in my life anymore the love I give and accept is the selfless kind… you take care of you as you need, I take care of me as I need, when we need each other we are there. I am always rooting for you and want your success even if I don’t tell you daily. Yes it may be hours or days before I respond to a call or message depending on what is happening in my life, but when I do I am met with love and kindness because it’s understood life happens.

This is the love to give and accept, it is kind it is patient, it doesn’t hurt, it is not demanding or selfish, it is real and has unspoken boundaries.

It is never I root for your success while you silently pray for my failure that my love is toxicity at its best.