Through Her Eyes.

Author: Tami Irizarry

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• Foreword: This book is much like me an absolute enigma! Don’t assume anything and make sure you’re open and willing to see things from multiple perspectives.
• I will show you how cruelty is celebrated and honored as the norm.
• While the love we all so deeply need and pray for we hide away from, as we mock and ridicule it calling it weakness. 
• We often assume and judge what we don’t understand. It is easier to do this it is a weak way to live. You fear what you don’t know because you want to understand how to control it. Yet you can’t control something simply because you don’t understand it. 
• Come out of your comfort zone and push yourself to seek life outside of what you know. Walk a mile in my shoes. 
• I will only tell you the truth. I have no interest in manipulating you, I have dealt with that fuckery my entire life. I don’t know all the answers, I know I found a better way for me.

Take a deeper look and see what you will find for yourself on your journey of self-discovery!

BOOK ONE- THE Life

This is the key to understanding so much more.

1. We are all someone’s child. We all have parents.
2. Toxic parenting was passed down.
3. You can break the toxic cycles!
4. You must be willing to admit you have toxic patterns, we all do at some point, we’re learning to change them!
5. Unconditional love does not mean unconditional acceptance of bad behavior.
6. I can love you and not like you.
7. Trust me with me, as you want me to trust you with you!
8. The same understanding you want from your parents, we as grown children want from our parents, as well as from our children too.
9. We’re all doing the best we can, let’s be kind to one another!
10. Grandparents can be good grandparents and horrible parents.
11. Narcissistic parents if unhealed and unwilling to admit they have a problem, may turn into narcissistic grandparents.
12. Narcissistic grandparents will manipulate your children against you, especially if they have a genuine jealousy and hate for you.
13. Understand when you set boundaries which no longer allow a narcissistic parent to harm or control you in the same ways they will panic and become desperate.
14. You have two options if they harm you because they enjoy your suffering and refuse to change, for your sanity please choose yourself walk away and don’t look back!
15. Now If you have a parent who has toxic tendencies and they are making changes, it doesn’t mean you have to walk away from them completely.
16. If you see real change keep boundaries but allow for growth. Simply no longer engage in any toxic behavior, remove yourself from the situation. Communication is key tell them the exact issue and give them the chance to correct it.
17. While healing make sure you’re aware of yourself take a step back to make you’re viewing the situation clearly.
18. Child abuse in any aspect is wrong and never your fault. In no way do my words accept or condone the actions of those who have harmed me.
19. I would be lying to say I didn’t understand how it all happened and I have no room for blame, I simply want change.
20. Laws to protect the innocent victims a real way to help and heal those caught up in this sick game.
21. Who is there to blame when it happened to us all?
22. None of these things are your fault and you need to know this.
23. When pain and accountability are involved most people will only hear what they want to believe, no one likes to get involved.
24. It’s not there place or business.. what a poor way to say I lack courage to do the right thing, regardless of what chaos it may bring for me.

Available 2022