She couldn’t help it.

Something had shifted when she woke up today she felt alive.

Not the type of alive where you simply exist going through the motions of life, no this was more like taking back control of her life..

She has started to live for her, it was time for change.

Too much life had been lost trying to make sense of all the pain, it hurt her heart and it drove her insane.

This was the beginning life would never again be the same and that was painfully beautiful.

To get to the beauty you have to get through the pain and while yes it hurts like hell everything you lose is nothing in comparison to what you will gain.

Healing isn’t some magic spell you say as you wish it all away.

Healing is unlearning toxic cycles you may have picked up along the way.

Healing is doing the work being honest and taking accountability for the pain you cause by your actions in the lives of others.

Healing is not putting your children and grandchildren through the same things that destroyed you.

Just because you survived it be better, they shouldn’t have to.

Remember one thing is true you give what you get in this life. You won’t truly see the effects it will have on your children until 20 years have passed like a blink of the eye.

Healing is trying to understand how you became who you are and ask yourself how you’re feeling this far.

Are you happy, do you feel heard, seen, understood, valued, loved, appreciated.. all of the above?

Now if you answered no to any of these ask yourself why, it’s time to come clean with yourself and stop allowing others to make you feel small.

Be honest are there things you wish you wouldn’t do too are you trying to change.

Are you trying to figure out how to be a better you?

Here’s a tip do it for your kids by doing it for you.

Children mimic what they see this is how you’re teaching them the people they will be.

Do people treat you as you deserve?

Do you speak up when they treat you poorly or do you stay silent while they hurt you with their actions and words?

Remember our children are watching it’s important the things they see.

Let’s be better then they we’re for you and me, I mean these kids are our hope for all humanity!