IF THIS IS YOUR REALITY THIS IS NARCISSISTIC ABUSE AND THEY WONT STOP UNTIL YOURE DEAD AND THERE IS NOTHING LEFT OF YOU.
NARCISSISTS DONT LOVE OR VALUE PEOPLE THEY USE THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE THEM UNTIL THEY ARE DESTROYED, DRAINED, DEAD, DISCARDED OR THE PERSON WAKES UP AND FIGHTS BACK!
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
THEY INTENTIONALLY CONFUSE ANS GASLIGHT YOU, THEY LIE AND MANIPULATE SO WELL YOU SLOWLY START TO QUESTION YOUR OWN SANITY AND SELF BLAME, ITS THEIR FAVORITE GAME!
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
THEY INTENTIONALLY DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS, THEY CLAIM ITS TO PROTECT YOU… YES FROM SEEING THE TRUTH!!
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
THEY SECLUDE YOU FROM YOUR SUPPORT SYSTEM BECAUSE ITS EASIER TO MANIPULATE SOMEONE WHO HAS NO SUPPORT.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
THEY CANT KEEP JOBS LONG BECAUSE IF THEIR TOXIC ATTITUDES AND YOURE LEFT PAYING IN MORE WAYS THEN YOU UNDERSTAND.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
THEY ARE CONTROLLING AS A FORM OF ABUSE NOT BECAUSE THEY CARE YOU ARE NOT AND INDIVIDUAL TO THEM THEY OWN YOU.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
THEY MAKE YOU THEIR SLAVE AND THEIR PUPPET AND YOU FIGHT TO DEFEND THEM, WHILE THEY MAKE A JOKE OF YOU.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
THEY STEAL YOUR TIME YOUR ENERGY YOUR FAMILY YOUR HOPE YOUR FRIENDS YOUR HOPE THEY STEAL YOUR LIFE AND YOU FIGHT TO KEEP LETTING THEM. MAKE IT MAKE SENSE.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
MY EX KEPT ME FROM USING MY CAR THAT WAS IN MY NAME THAT I PAID FOR WHEN EVER SHE FELT LIKE IT TO KEEP ME AT HOME AND FEELING HELPLESS.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
DAYS SHE WOULDNT COME HOME WHAT SHE WANTED WAS ALL THAT MATTERED SHE DIDNT LOVE ME SHE WANTED TO OWN ME TO CONTROL ME. TO ME IT FELT LIKE PROTECTION.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
THIS IS ABUSE NOT LOVE WAKE THE FUCK UP ALREADY AND STOP LETTING THEM DESTROY YOU.
I thought it was love because I am a child of abuse. Love was never healthy for me my upbringing felt like this too.. HONESTLY IT FELT EASY LIKE NOTHING I HADN’T BEEN THROUGH, I thought I could make it work I tried I gave my all. I lost everything and took the greatest fall.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
I LET IT HAPPEN I THOUGHT IT WAS LOVE.
I BLAMED AND HATED MYSELF.
THE TRUTH IS IT WASN’T MY FAULT JUST LIKE YOU DIDN’T ASK FOR ANYONE TO ABUSE YOU EITHER NOW YOU KNOW ITS UP TO YOU TO SAVE YOURSELF.
THEY ARE EVIL WHILE YOU WOULD DIE FOR THEM, THE MOMENT YOU STOP ALLOWING THE ABUSE THEY ARE ALREADY LOOKING FOR YOUR REPLACEMENT..
I DO NOW!
TRY IT OUT STOP LETTING THEM ABUSE YOU AND WATCH WHAT THEY DO, START SETTING BOUNDARIES, STOP DOING WHAT THEY TELL YOU TOO YOU HAVE YOUR OWN MIND START TO THINK FOR YOU!
THIS ISN’T IT RUN!! LOVE DOESN’T HURT, ONLY PAIN HURTS!
WAKE UP ITS TIME TO STAND UP AGAINST SILENT ABUSE NOW.
See I am forced to go public the pain is too much to hold I didn’t leave and abandon you I was a year old.
Yet I paid with my mind, heart, little body and soul. When I found you at 18 you had an amazing life that’s for sure.. I didn’t fit in I was a burden you said it and walked away yet again.
Then 2019 came I hadn’t heard from you in such a long time I was honestly ecstatic maybe this was it my time to matter to you, sadly it was not instead your mother was dying and none of your children cared to support you. Carly a sister that isn’t a sister to me had you reach out and hand that burden to me.
Family means everything and I was so grateful until you all took advantage and tried to use me you have to understand how that confused me and still I paid for it all, just to spend time making memories it was worth it I thought.
Then my birthday or Christmas not even a card did I receive I finally broke down and why didn’t you care about me? Your response broke my heart and my mind my spirit started to break free.. After what you said to me.
It wouldn’t be fair to your sisters yours hers and another sisters, I was devastated this is a joke right this is the first chance to do something nice and try to make up for all you never cared to do. Yet you were my father why did her daughters get two yet I got none. That hurt little girl isn’t done and she will be heard.
Your cruel words help crash down my world I had a mental breakdown from this disease of insanity you all handed to me by not behaving like adults and handling your responsibilities.
Have a conversation like an adult you literally created this chaos by ignoring your responsibility now the issue came in when u suffered my entire childhood because youcouldnt do the right thing. Then you blame and shame me for my lack of success who are you to put that on me?
You laid in the bed and got my mother pregnant you chose to walk away and never help. You didn’t care if I lived or died and still to this day you can’t be bothered to make the wrongs right.
Instead you’re so worried about maintaining the status you tried to secure yourself with a false image that you present. I won’t live ignored hidden taking all the blame I will speak and be heard. Men like you are the problem in this world. I will do all I can to change this and use my pain as the example.
Vexation is being annoyed relaxation is releasing the annoyance.
We should all forever be in a state of relaxation and that begins with speaking up against the things that cause us to stay in the state of vexation.
If not we only allow a constant interruption of our relaxation by those we love because when love is true it is unconditional which also includes helping those we love as they navigate their journey.
✓ There is separation in family and humanity is clinging on by a thread, it is time we are taking back control and making appropriate changes. Now we are in an awkward place of unlearning, clearing, healing, understanding, opening, Integrating new information, opening to different perspectives and reclaiming all that was wrongfully taken and held back from us. However we aren’t doing it in hate or anger or even pain, we are doing it in love and through changed behaviors! It begins as we uplift one another and remind each other that we are all divine and hold the heart of Jesus and Mary within each of us! Once we find balance it all begins!
✓ Sometimes people need separation so that we may heal and learn a better way. This way we clear the road for whatever is meant for us and we allow the other the same, often we find when the love is real it finds it way back to us. However this time it is ready for a new beginning in new ways when it does return. It is time for you to focus on yourselves and your children as you heal independently so you may come back and heal the family together. Through the true heart of Jesus and Mary can we truly change the world. It begins within each of us this is the journey home.
✓ Open to the awesomeness around you!
✓ Tami Irizarry @DivineTemptations

I love in love, I’ve learned a better way. It’s more then what you say, but also how you say it. Love speaks through all that you do, it’s in the words you choose and the way that you move. It flows through you and others feel and see it too. Love is who I am, love is what I do. Love is free and love is true, understand the ways of love start with simply being you. You before the world told you who you should be, go back to your better days when you could just be free.
I believe in love, it’s been there for all the change. No matter the trauma or the pain love stood by my side while I felt lost and afraid. It wasn’t a love from another not always you’ll see. The deepest love I’ve ever known has come from within me.
I’ve consoled myself when I couldn’t take anymore. I woke myself up and pushed me towards the door. I’ve wiped my tears and rocked through my cries. I’ve stayed by my side through all the goodbyes. I am in love with myself it’s how I survive in this life.
I live in love for me it’s the only way.
I exist in love, I exist for change.
I laugh in love, my heart is free.
I know who I am, inside and out. I am free to love in the purest ways, without judgement without shame, never a worry, never blame.
I am never worried about who she wants me to be. I showed her everything the world said was bad about me. I was so scared god I remember. I cried like a baby so afraid of rejection. I showed her the hair on my chin and my neck, she kissed me so deeply, holding me as I cried.
She lifted me into her arms and kissed me a million times at least it felt like that anyway. She told me I was absolutely gorgeous and I could see it in her eyes. She meant every word she was saying.
I was almost embarrassed by my surprise, I tested her again I was still so afraid so I showed her all my scars would she still choose to stay? She is absolutely finitely in love with me. She doesn’t hide away from me all the ways she was told not to be. We embrace all the beautiful things that make us who we are.
I don’t have to speak for her. I speak for only me, I know it’s true in all she does it’s in the way she moves. in the way she treats me. Haven’t we been picked apart enough, love is a safe place in which we’ve built on trust.
I feel in love, with everything in me
I think in love, I open my mind. It’s not about me all of the time, I think about it all and I make sure I understand, I ask questions seeking clarity when I don’t understand. I trust in the communication we’ve built, I am free to ask without shame or guilt. We teach and learn from each other as we go, how can we learn if we’re so afraid to ask we pretend to know.
I know in love, I don’t own you, you are not mine.
I learn in love, change happens all the time. I am only me. I control my time. I share it with those who I choose. This is my life, these are my rules.
I evolve in love, I stand by you until you decline.
I grow in love, Boundaries set are safe and kind.
I morph in love, I adapt there is no blame it’s life.
I change in love, I simply exist to be. In an ever changing world, I grow rapidly.
I soar in love, I speak my will there is no confusion. We all know what to do.
I rise in love, I trust you with me. We speak in love it happens so easily.
I speak in love- I only mean what I say. There is no confusion or in between.
I scribe in love- to share the way. Love is the answer to changing the ways.
I see in love- Nothing else exists. I observe who you are and I understand why.
I perceive in love- I see everyone’s perspectives and can understand why.
I understand in love- It’s not my place to judge, I’m not perfect all of the time.
I will in love- All I desire to be. This begins in us all, for you as for me.
I desire in love- all that is for me. Love is peace. I hope you understand it would be a dream to me.
I dream in love- I breath life into motion. My dreams are messages of love from me, that I choose to share with a chosen few.
I color the world in love- I light the path for those who can see, so they may find the way. Only pure hearts can understand what I say.
I stand for what I love- All that is right and true. Right is right but only when right is right for everyone not just you.
I die when I cease to love- There is nothing left to feel. The pain is to intense, this life cannot be real. I look for an escape a way to make it through the day.
Can anybody see me am I even real?
I love so I fight for a better way. I want everyone to live a life they love so they don’t have to numb their life away. We don’t have to do it alone anymore, it’s safe to want to be free. Change happens rapidly we only need to realize, it begins with you and me.
I become in love when I fall in love with myself- The only way to heal yourself is to embrace and love all of yourself. The parts you hate that you’ve wished away. They are beautiful parts that you were taught to hate. I’m sorry others made you feel that way.
I know in love- This life gets tiring and we all need help, it’s too much for us to be expected to do it all by ourselves.
Help is out there if you should need. Do what you need to make it through another day, don’t give up change is on the way.
I am proud in love- I’m proud of you for being so strong so long.
What I’ve watched you go through, the heart break and suffering in silence, you’ve fought your way through it all!
You searched for a better way and kept your heart pure. You made your focus on true love and what is right for all. You kept unconditional love, understanding and concern in your heart and lived it at all times.
You never judged another you simply tried to understand the differences and respected everyone equally and their ways, understanding your way isn’t the only way and that is just fine.
I know you’re scared and tired. I know you feel like this pain will never end, I know in your heart and soul you can’t accept that to be the truth.
I’m so proud of you because it wasn’t for nothing and dreams do come true.
The pain is coming to an end it’s the Dawn of Anew way forward together!
New days are here. Those with pure hearts please lift your heads once and for all.
You’re divinely protected in the heart of infinite love.
There are specific days in my life that stay with me always. They are the days I look on and wish I had known then what I now know. These days are the days I trusted in others to tell me what made sense and I was striving to do better, be better and give my children a better chance at a bright future. This day in particular became the pinnacle of my destruction.
Kristy I thought was different everyone liked her, she was fun and outgoing. Kristy seemed responsible she had a good job, her family was in her life and she was pursuing me. I had just left an abusive relationship with a control freak who was a manipulative cheater and an emotional abuser so Kristy stepped in like a breath of fresh air.
I was so blinded.
I had friends or so I had thought, it turns out this would be a most valuable lesson. People don’t do what’s right they typically don’t care what’s right they do what is socially acceptable.
Allow me to explain. I was living a decent life abuse had been something I had always known. Even with my diagnosis’s I was fighting for my life, it was suddenly falling into place. I had just been awarded my social security disability and I had a nice rental home for me and the kids, I was surrounded by what I believed we’re friends and family that cared for us.
Yet no one, not one of the people who called my children their niece and nephew thought to warn me. Kristy was a convicted felon multiple times over and a active alcoholic and crack smoker/drug user. I was naive to say the very least and alcoholics were not new to me so I saw it as normal and she hid the drug use.
As the relationship progressed I ignored the red flags, my daughter hated her I thought it was preteen angst. I was selfish and wanted peace, happiness and stability for my children and myself. Kristy was right there promising the sun, moon and stars. Little did I know how she and her family would spend our entire relationship tearing us down, emotionally and mentally abusing us, while stealing everything I had and mentally destroying me.
The worst part is it was all avoidable, at any point anyone of my best friends who claimed to love us and who knew her and her family personally could have said Tami she isn’t good for you. Yet not one did and I understand oh it’s no ones place however innocent children were there so yes as humans it was absolutely the time and place to speak up.
Silence prevailed.
So when Kristy suggested we move into her parents home to save money to buy a house and start our lives, I felt it was an absolute blessing! It was perfect her parents had a 3 bedroom apartment in the basement of their home and we wouldn’t be charged rent. I gave up my rental and we moved. This is where I went wrong.
Once I left my freedom, giving up my independence and trusting the words she was saying. I was sitting on 15,000 cash from back pay with social security and I was on over 18 different medications for my mental health. I was doing the best I could to recover from my past and how it was supposed to be my time to finally give my kids the life they deserved. We moved into Kristys parents house.
Life went dark almost immediately and Kristy became a completely different person we took control of all of the money and food became scarce she was working all the time so I didn’t understand.
She was drinking more and more and becoming cruel and angry all of the time. She took control of my child support and social security and convinced me that we didn’t need my car because I drove hers and she had the work truck so I listened to her and sold my vehicle. She instantly took the money.
I was stuck and didn’t have the proper help to leave it was a bad situation to a bad situation, I had no safe place to run. Life was unhealthy for me. I’m writing this and it is hard but has to be written. Ladies and men please find the knowledge and wisdom within this.
Love doesn’t hurt. Love is never manipulating. Love is not controlling. When it is love it heals and helps. Love never destroys, love is not toxic. Any one who secludes you from family or friends seeks to control you by controlling who influences you. They wish to keep you only listening to them so that you stay ignorant to what they’re doing. please don’t let yourself become a victim.
Looking back now I see the pattern and all of us face it, one way or another the point is we no longer have to. If we can identify these behaviors we can prevent destruction. If we warn each other we can help to heal this world instead of watching idly by as good people become victims to the evil ways of narcissistic people.
✓ There is separation in family and humanity is clinging on by a thread, it is time we are taking back control and making appropriate changes. Now we are in an awkward place of unlearning, clearing, healing, understanding, opening, Integrating new information, opening to different perspectives and reclaiming all that was wrongfully taken and held back from us. However we aren’t doing it in hate or anger or even pain, we are doing it in love and through changed behaviors! It begins as we uplift one another and remind each other that we are all divine and hold the heart of Jesus and Mary within each of us! Once we find balance it all begins!
Unpacking and healing the baggage of life.. let’s take a walk together as we find a better way. 