We as a society are so drained from the reality of life. People have no time to focus or care for themselves until forced to prioritize what matters. Self realization on a deeply healing level begins when you have time to properly care for yourself. Yet many go without making themselves a priority in their own lives so they sacrifice the things that matter and keep them balanced. Such as.. Self care Health Family Relationships Love
When we will make time to focus on humanity again?
Instead we became so focused on reaching and maintaining the status quo, set by a society of narcissist who are interested in selling you the newest trends to keep you wrapped in their game of monopoly.
Work work work. Spend spend spend. When’s the last time you spent time with your kids, your partner, your family, your friends?
Balance is a beautiful thing my friend!
Please don’t take all your time and only focus on work.
I understand I enjoy the finer things too.
I promise there are people that are missing you make sure to prioritize them too.
How are your relationships with those you love? Are the healthy, healing, loving and true?
Do you have open conversations or it is the basic hey how are you?
Is life fulfilling for you is it enough?
Do you wish you knew how to be heard and seen.
Communication and comprehension are key understand it’s not only what you’re saying it’s how you’re saying it that can make it hard to hear.
Teenagers are hard are you struggling with that I have experience I can help you with that!
Parents frustrating you because they aren’t willing to listen and you don’t know how to get through?
Talk to me I finally do!
Are there some things you wish you knew how to handle differently?
Is there someone you wish you could turn to at times like these?
More importantly are you ready to get back to the heart of the matter?
If so come and book a session with me! Tami Irizarry Divine Temptation Divine Temptations
I am so proud of you, this is so hard but keep going!! I love you.
Its changing keep pushing you’re in the thick of it we get all the blame and have to do all the work trust in the end it’s worth it.
You can’t ask for what you aren’t willing to give and while others may leave those spots unfulfilled its wise to look at all the voids they do fill and make sure they know they are also loved cared for and appreciated.
Love is not something we give only when convenient for us.
Love is a constant flow not a one way street where we only meet our own needs.
This is how we begin to heal, we begin to find value in each other.
Don’t back down speak on truth, lead in love and trust your heart!!
If it isn’t right for you don’t sit silently watching others being abused. When we speak it changes.
This is for any and every relationship not simply romantic.
I NEVER gave up on anybody I have loved.
I TALKED AND TALKED TO Them TO FIX CERTAIN THINGS and when it didn’t get fixed, I cried I begged I pleaded.
I grew silent and then I Focused on ME.
I never shut the door I just stopped holding myself up waiting for what they weren’t ready to battle within.
Nobody is going to repeat THEMSELVES EVERYDAY nor are people going to wait forever to get what they DESERVE..
The most selfish and manipulative thought process a person can have is to think you can treat people any kind of way and expect them to be there( saying that’s love and loyalty), then when they leave you say they gave up on you and make yourself to be the victim.
The truth is you didn’t care enough about them in the way they deserved to apply yourself, for what you thought you were ready for. You weren’t able to give the same love and care they were giving you. You took them for granted and thought they would never leave.
Keep it honest with yourself, if nothing else.
I only COMPLAINED BECAUSE I CARED once I stop caring it’s over when you’re ready come find me and we will have that conservation!
Love is forever, acceptance of poor behavior is not. It’s time to grow.
Here’s where we make our biggest mistake and we then live with pain and regret. We allow our ego and pride to take over.
We care more about being right we forget to consider what is right.
We are so afraid of being hurt we believe our worst fears. Instead of allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and
Instead of having simple conversations and trying to understand where the other was coming from.
We stay guarded only causing further pain to ourselves and those who love us.
If it’s love, it’s time to help each other and giving each other and opportunity for change and growth. Mean what you say, say what you mean. Don’t lie and manipulate, be honest and honor your commitments.
You can’t go through life simply thinking of yourself.
The world is hurting we can do better then this.
For too long we have continued these painful cycles.
Our children learn from what they see us accept and what they see us do.
Isn’t it time to do better so the future generations won’t have to suffer the same ignorance?
You are a gift to this world never forget that and when you move out of your own way there’s no holding you back!
Violence. Mental torment. Emotional harm. Control. manipulation. lies. None of that is love it has no part in love.
Call it what it is!
it’s abuse speak up and fight for your life and that of your children!
Thank you for your time and energy!
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Every moment of everyday is a chance to begin again, if only you can change your perspective to see fully all the options before you choose.
Yet to be successful one must be able to understand which questions to ask and know when to ask them.
It’s important to grow the ability within yourself to question freely so that you may gain all the necessary and relevant information to make a proper decision which considers many of the consequences that may come from the choice you make.
Cause and effect is very real it’s what many call the law of karma.
However If information is withheld you’re not truly informed so how can you even begin to understand how things will work out?
Only when we honor ourselves by speaking up against those who treat us poorly, ignoring the basic of human decencies. We can truly make appropriate changes.
It’s time to start questioning outdated behaviors and beliefs that affect us without fear of retribution or alienation.
Many rely on hope, hope that things will turn out for the best, without any true understanding of the work that is needed to get to where we desire to be.
Change begins within each of us, yet no one can or should have to make you do, what you already know you should do.
Perhaps you don’t know what to do, wouldn’t you rather someone was honest with you letting you know that your behavior is hurtful?
Instead we walk away in pain leaving others no real reason why, further causing pain in all heart involved.
Avoidance clearly isn’t that way we’re going to get these issues solved.
Change only comes when something changes.
Aren’t you tired of the race to perfection that will never be achieved? I would far rather spend my time here making it better for me, so that the future generations may have a chance of a life of harmony.
It’s time for a better way, together we can end the pain. It begins with love. Love for self and love for others which requires a level of honesty most aren’t ready for.
Hard conversations are what open the doors to change. Step out of fear and let’s do what’s right for everyone.
It starts being less selfish and a bit more selfless, in very simple ways.. simply start by considering how your actions affect others and how you make them feel.
Now ask how they make you feel.
These thing are true love doesn’t hurt, insecurity and toxicity do, hurt people hurt people and they may not understand that they are causing you pain.
This could be normal do you truly know how they were raised and what level of pain they were forced to take from a very young age? So if you love and value them be open and honest and have hard conversations which give others room to grow.
We have to reach each other and help teach each other it’s time to stop assuming everyone knows. It’s also time to stop turning a blind eye there is so much wrong where’s the human decency we claim to have?
We can do better truly begin to heal this is our lives we can ignore that we all feel and want connection. Yet we live ourselves with regret pretending that we don’t hurt, put on a happy face shove the feelings down. Pride rules the world no one’s wants to be weak in another’s eyes.
What isn’t understood is it’s weak to lie to yourself or anyone else. It isn’t reality to say it doesn’t matter who are you lying to my guy? It’s weak to pretend not to feel. It’s weak to hide the real feelings away it’s weak because it’s not true and it only keeps us all in pain.
It’s strong to be vulnerable, terrified and true. It’s strong to feel it all and make a better way for you. It’s strong to stand up against all that is wrong, it’s strong to be a voice for the weak in a silent, blind and violent world.
Something had shifted when she woke up today she felt alive.
Not the type of alive where you simply exist going through the motions of life, no this was more like taking back control of her life..
She has started to live for her, it was time for change.
Too much life had been lost trying to make sense of all the pain, it hurt her heart and it drove her insane.
This was the beginning life would never again be the same and that was painfully beautiful.
To get to the beauty you have to get through the pain and while yes it hurts like hell everything you lose is nothing in comparison to what you will gain.
Healing isn’t some magic spell you say as you wish it all away.
Healing is unlearning toxic cycles you may have picked up along the way.
Healing is doing the work being honest and taking accountability for the pain you cause by your actions in the lives of others.
Healing is not putting your children and grandchildren through the same things that destroyed you.
Just because you survived it be better, they shouldn’t have to.
Remember one thing is true you give what you get in this life. You won’t truly see the effects it will have on your children until 20 years have passed like a blink of the eye.
Healing is trying to understand how you became who you are and ask yourself how you’re feeling this far.
Are you happy, do you feel heard, seen, understood, valued, loved, appreciated.. all of the above?
Now if you answered no to any of these ask yourself why, it’s time to come clean with yourself and stop allowing others to make you feel small.
Be honest are there things you wish you wouldn’t do too are you trying to change.
Are you trying to figure out how to be a better you?
Here’s a tip do it for your kids by doing it for you.
Children mimic what they see this is how you’re teaching them the people they will be.
Do people treat you as you deserve?
Do you speak up when they treat you poorly or do you stay silent while they hurt you with their actions and words?
Remember our children are watching it’s important the things they see.
Let’s be better then they we’re for you and me, I mean these kids are our hope for all humanity!
I am ready, I’ve been learning in this journey there’s been far too much hurting.
I cannot continue the ways I’ve learned it isn’t the way and I have unlearned.
The path before me written before my time, in all truth it’s all divine.
Do unto others as you’d want done to you, speak no words unless they’re true.
Anger, jealousy and envy aren’t the way they will lead you off course and straight to pain.
Love, understanding, truth and trust they are the way that we can begin to heal us.
To live in peace we cannot cause strife, if you don’t like it for you is it even right?
I trust in myself and all that I do, one thing I’ve mastered is to my own self be true.
There is a better way and it is absolute truth.
There is a way to help us all, stand up when you someone tries to verbally abuse you and make you feel small.
Start calling out the bullshit it’s time to defend yourself, when we hold people accountable for their actions and we bring bad behaviors to light we force all involved to understand the difference between wrong and right.
We have a responsibility to each other to help one another grow.
Perhaps assholes are assholes because they haven’t been told?
I don’t know but it’s time they learn.
It will never change while we stay silent and pretend these behaviors don’t hurt. They hurt everyone even if you can’t see, emotional abuse hurts everybody.
Hurt people hurt people so let’s stop watching hurt people, continue to hurt people.
Cycles continue until we stop them how many more emotionally damaged humans are we going to create?
Stand up to all who would hurt you and make you feel like you don’t matter it’s time to set boundaries!
Stop letting anyone make you small take your power back you get one is this how you want your story to end?
Our sons and daughters are watching, is this okay for them too? Isn’t it time we change?
So many questions on my mind, what have I done? What was done to this life of mine?
My life is in disarray what happened to it all did I make the wrong choices is this the fall from grace?
I haven’t wanted to know the answer yet the question stares at me, I can’t look away when it’s staring me in the face.
It can’t be right I believe I took too long to end the fight within and now there’s nothing left but the rumble.
Do I sit crying at the ruins of my life or do I get back up, stand and fight. I never forgot this is my fucking life.
Now I alone make the rules, my destiny guided by something more, God I implore you now open all the doors and clear the blockages I need you by my side I cannot do this alone. This is all of our fight.
Welcome to the battle of humanity.
Will love win or will we cease to be?
Did you think I would fade away so easily, just a memory that would die with time?
Not in this life darling, time is still mine.
My story isn’t done the best is yet to come watch me do it my way, this is how the battle is won.
Today I’ll take my coffee light and sweet with conversation that’s not too deep.
My coffee is inviting its Caramel colored like me, it’s strong creamy and sweet.
It warms me up although I’m hot enough. Confidence is once again growing, I can feel it all coming.
I don’t want to think to much on it, I’ve learned to trust the process this life is beyond me.
I grab a cigarette and light it up knowing what I really want is a blunt.
So I hit it.. fuck it anymore, the world is in shambles do you really think it matters?
I’m doing what I have too, to keep me above water.
I am one of them, the forgotten sons and daughters.
Contemplating life there are so many questions.
How did it go wrong, when should I end it?
I’m not ending shit this is my life and I’m going to make the very best of it. Moving forward I can’t wait anymore, I’ve waited and waited as I’ve held the door, now it’s time I am ready for more.
When did I lose me, that’s not a fair question it should be more like..
when did I find me?
I found me alone sitting in pain, scared unsure begging for change.
I was blinded by all of the rage.
I couldn’t see clearly enough, I was trapped in my head pretending it was love.
For 14 years I left myself locked up in a cage.
I started to focus and put my attention where it belonged this wasn’t love I was receiving and I knew it was wrong.
All the things you chose to say how could it ever be any other way?
I was naive I couldn’t see I was so in awe, omg you chose me!
Me caring, innocent,loving most of all naïve.
You didn’t want me, you wanted what you could take from me, I can’t even be mad.
I begged you to stay, living without you couldn’t be the way.
So I traded myself and I watched me fade away.
That was the point at which I lost my self worth and loyalty to me.
Anything you want you got it baby please just don’t leave.
That was the game you taught me to play so I flipped the script and I learned a better way.
Love is a gamble that is for sure you’re gambling with your heart and winner takes all.
Now here’s the most important question to ask, are you playing the hand with a love that will last?
Toxic people play silly games and when you flip it on them then you’re the one to blame, there is no accountability when you play the narcissists way.
For you my god I’d lost so much but what did I care for me I was in love.
You wanted it all and it was never enough.
You took it all away and made sure there was no one left to help me or care for me.
You made me so dependent on you and secured with you, I would always stay.
Well that’s what you hoped anyway.
I watched my children change and I started noticing your games.
I watched them scatter like roaches every time you would come home and I knew something had to be done.
This was my life and it was coming undone.
You wanted your drugs, the money, the control. You left your anger, manipulation, rage and pain guide it all.
I wanted your love I almost lost my soul.
I learned so much by what you would do, I felt as if I was losing my mind.
Why do you do the things you do?
Say something, deny it, blame it on me god it was so tiring, why couldn’t I leave?
You don’t give up you find a way but if I stayed I end up in a early grave.
I had to be sure of the truth, I started to record you.
Now I could hold you accountable for what you say it wasn’t me and here was the proof.
The worst part is when I showed you and you laughed at me and said “I know exactly what I do”.
Shortly thereafter you put your hands around my neck as you got on top of me you spit in my face as you chocked me and told me you wished I was dead.
Yes that’s love baby I should have just left you keep stealing from me instead.
I guess I’ll never know if love was true everything I research says these behaviors are hard wired in you and that you don’t understand what truth is but that’s bullshit you’re just a scared, broken, hurt little kid.
You enjoy causing pain it makes you feel better.
I wanted nothing more then to love you back together.
I didn’t understand we weren’t playing by the same rules.
You left me no choice for them I had to choose me.
I prayed every fucking night to the lord to shine down on me.
I prayed to my ancestors, the divine council, galactic forces, all the gods and the ones who love me most.
I petitioned and I did the work, I cast the spells, I followed the psalm’s, I co created with the magic of it all.
I asked for true love from above all in the universe.
My wish was granted and in came love it was the most terrifying thing I have ever experienced.
She remains a blessing sent from above.
Finally I can speak from experience I have true love, it is real and true it’s like nothing I’ve ever experienced before and it’s my greatest wish for you.
Transitioning from toxic love to true love, from pain to pleasure and from fear to hope is a wild journey and that is putting it mildly.
If you’re in a toxic relationship or have had a toxic upbringing the chances of your self worth being low are extremely high.
I am speaking on my own personal experiences and of those I have loved and witnessed, however I find we’re all sharing the same feelings and emotions when it comes to life and love, even if we may not know one another.
As for me I had low self esteem.
I had insecurities and fears, which allowed me to unknowingly lower my standards to almost nothing.
I simply wanted to be loved, wanted, needed and I believed everyone felt and deserved the same as me.
I gave my all and happily accepted whatever I was given, the is the love I was shown from my very beginning.
Welcome to life this is how we’re conditioned.
I was taught to be who I am. I learned to read others to anticipate their moods it wasn’t safe and stable at home or school.
I was taught to be silent and allow others to treat me as they wished, I didn’t matter I was a stupid little kid.
I grew up hearing all that was wrong with me so yes I was always on the defense there was no peace of mind for as an adult who struggles with mental illness it’s clear to see, how it all came to be.
My body was not my own and everyone loves a good girl who makes them feel good. It’s what I was shown to do make grown ups feel good.
I knew my value was based on what they could take from me.
40 years of my life they took everything they could from me.
I wanted someone who simply loved me for me, not for what they stood to gain from me.
Love isn’t a social climb, like many seem to believe.
Love is what gave us humanity, love is the fabric that binds us all.
Love is everlasting and pure it’s unconditional it’s the start and end of it all.
I don’t think many understand love at all to them it’s a game like I’ve said before, do they ever stop and realize when you play games there is only one winner?
In a relationship there are two so who’s the winner in the game of love if it can only be one of you?
See what I mean it just doesn’t make sense, love isn’t a game it’s heaven sent.
Love is the gift that keeps it all going and love is the most abused state of being.
I’m back now, try me.
44 it’s my golden year… why?
I say so let me make that very clear!
I’ve spent enough time waiting for what’s right.
It’s time for me I’m standing up this is my life, I stand for all in wanting what is right.
I am in love, I am what I do.
I love in love, I’ve learned a better way. It’s more then what you say, but also how you say it.
Love speaks through all that you do, it’s in the words you choose and the way that you move. It flows through you and others feel and see it too.
Love is who I am, love is what I do.
Love is free and love is true, understand the ways of love start with simply being you. You before the world told you who you should be, go back to your better days when you could just be free.
I believe in love, it’s been there for all the change. No matter the trauma or the pain love stood by my side while I felt lost and afraid.
It wasn’t a love from another not always you’ll see.
The deepest love I’ve ever known has come from within me.
I’ve consoled myself when I couldn’t take anymore.
I woke myself up and pushed me towards the door.
I’ve wiped my tears and rocked through my cries.
I’ve stayed by my side through all the goodbyes.
I am in love with myself it’s how I survive in this life.
I live in love for me it’s the only way.
I exist in love, I exist for change.
I laugh in love, my heart is free.
I know who I am, inside and out.
I am free to love in the purest ways, without judgement without shame, never a worry, never blame.
I am never worried about who she wants me to be.
I showed her everything the world said was bad about me.
I was so scared god I remember. I cried like a baby so afraid of rejection.
I showed her the hair on my chin and my neck, she kissed me so deeply, holding me as I cried.
She lifted me into her arms and kissed me a million times at least it felt like that anyway.
She told me I was absolutely gorgeous and I could see it in her eyes. She meant every word she was saying.
I was almost embarrassed by my surprise, I tested her again I was still so afraid so I showed her all my scars would she still choose to stay?
She is absolutely finitely in love with me. She doesn’t hide away from me all the ways she was told not to be. We embrace all the beautiful things that make us who we are.
I don’t have to speak for her.
I speak for only me, I know it’s true in all she does it’s in the way she moves. in the way she treats me.
Haven’t we been picked apart enough, love is a safe place in that we built trust.
I feel in love, with everything in me
I think in love, I open my mind. It’s not about me all of the time, I think about it all and I make sure I understand, I ask questions seeking clarity when I don’t understand.
I trust in the communication we’ve built, I am free to ask without shame or guilt. We teach and learn from each other as we go, how can we learn if we’re so afraid to ask we pretend to know.
I know in love, I don’t own you, you are not mine.
I learn in love, change happens all the time. I am only me. I control my time. I share it with those who I choose. This is my life, these are my rules.
I evolve in love, I stand by you until you decline.
I grow in love, Boundaries set are safe and kind.
I morph in love, I adapt there is no blame it’s life.
I change in love, I simply exist to be. In an ever changing world, I grow rapidly.
I soar in love, I speak my will there is no confusion. We all know what to do.
I rise in love, I trust you with me. We speak in love it happens so easily.
I speak in love- I only mean what I say. There is no confusion or in between.
I scribe in love- to share the way. Love is the answer to changing the ways.
I see in love- Nothing else exists. I observe who you are and I understand why.
I perceive in love- I see everyone’s perspectives and can understand why.
I understand in love- It’s not my place to judge, I’m not perfect all of the time.
I will in love- All I desire to be. This begins in us all, for you as for me.
I desire in love- all that is for me.
Love is peace.
I hope you understand it would be a dream to me.
I dream in love- I breath life into motion. My dreams are messages of love from me, that I choose to share with a chosen few.
I color the world in love- I light the path for those who can see, so they may find the way. Only pure hearts can understand what I say.
I stand for what I love- All that is right and true. Right is right is right is right is right and right and true but only when right is right is right is right for everyone not just you.
I die when I cease to love- There is nothing left to feel. The pain is to intense, this life cannot be real. I look for an escape a way to make it through the day. Can anybody see me am I even real? I love so I fight for a better way. I want everyone to live a life they love so they don’t have to numb their life away. We don’t have to do it alone anymore, it’s safe to want to be free. Change happens rapidly we only need to realize, it begins with you and me.
I become in love when I fall in love with myself- The only way to heal yourself is to embrace and love all of yourself.
The parts you hate that you’ve wished away.
They are beautiful parts that you were taught to hate. I’m sorry others made you feel that way.
I know in love- This life gets tiring and we all need help is too much for us to be expected to do it all by ourselves. Help is out there is you should need.
Do what you need to make it through another day, don’t give up change is on the way.
I am proud in love- I’m proud of you for being so strong so long.
It’s time to return to love, it’s what saves us all. Heal the pain and let’s begin a new way.
It’s all IN LOVE. I’m not mean, I’m tired of waiting and ready for change. I will be honest and tell you what they won’t.
I want you to succeed in this life we have been hurt for too long, not knowing better. I AM THE ONLY ME I CAN BE AND I WANT THE WORLD RID OF PAIN AND TOXICITY AND THAT BEGINS WITH THE TRUTH AND HARD CONVERSATIONS NO ONE LIKES TO HAVE. We are the change we’ve been waiting for yet nothing changes until we change it!
How do we begin? With healing ourselves and recognizing destructive patterns of pain we’ve inherited. We strive to understand how we became who we are as an individual and how much of it is ours versus all that we picked up from others along the way. We stop being so damn selfish and childish and we take responsibility and accountability for what we do in all aspects.
We call out abusers and stand by the abused. We stop mistreating people and calling it love so that the abuse can continue!! I can assure you LOVE DOESN’T HURT!! What hurts is lies, manipulation, mind games, abusive behaviors, neglect, abandonment, alienation, shame, guilt, toxicity, feelings of worthlessness, control…. ARE YOU UNDERSTANDING IT NOW?
Now everyone wants to be the good guy and follow the see no evil, speak no evil, hear no evil, it’s none of my business mindset. Well that’s where you screwed up it is your business and let me explain. We have no one left to blame but ourselves if this is the way we continue once you know better and understand what the consequences for continuing these actions are.
OH BEFORE I BEGIN UNDERSTAND THIS. ONLY A PERSON WHO HAS PERSONALLY EXPERIENCED THE TRAUMA WILL EVER TRULY UNDERSTAND THE DAMAGE AND THE EFFECT IT TRULY TOOK ON THEIR LIVES. You can study all you like but unless it’s happened to you.. STAY SILENT ON THE SUBJECT WHEN IT COMES TO HOW IT AFFECTED ANOTHER PERSON OR HOW SOMEONE SHOULD FEEL OR BEHAVE. I can only speak from my own personal experiences. In my humble opinion some mental illness such as depression, anxiety…. are absolutely caused by abusive, neglectful, toxic upbringings. Now here is the problem everyone knew what was happening yet it was no one’s place to speak up it wasn’t their business. Now 44 years later I know that my upbringing and events that shaped my life left me a victim allow me to explain. I had been so broken and confused feeling devoid completely, I didn’t understand that what I had been taught love was.. was truly not. So when I was abused in relationships I literally thought it was normal and it was better then I had known. Yes you read that right!!! I took time I turned inward, I questioned everything including why I was who I was and why I did the things I did, felt the way I felt and thought the way I did.
I began unpacking all the suitcases of pain from around my heart. I started healing and understanding that we will never break these cycles until we call out the abusers and build up the abused. You have a voice you matter please let’s start using it!
How many children should endure the pain of outdated toxic beliefs meant to harm one’s confidence and strip them of self worth?
Isn’t it time to begin anew way forward together? When we take the time to release judgements and begin to try and understand one another, we will come to fine we all want to be loved. We want to matter and we want to feel connected and safe with those we surround ourselves with in all aspects.
When we stop allowing each other to destroy each other and we stop allowing innocent children to pay for the parents pain handed down from the generations before, we come to find they also blessed us with the strength, wisdom, guidance and power to end these cycles together.
It’s simple and it starts at home. Treat everyone how you want to be treated! If you don’t like to be treated that way don’t do it to anyone else. Stop taking your frustrations out on your children learn to control your emotions.
Your CHILDREN aren’t here because they asked to be you picked a partner and created life, they are YOUR RESPONSIBILITY IN ALL ASPECTS! Raise them with love encouragement and support. Don’t judge them the world will do that enough, home should be a safe haven. Do you like to be belittled or made to feel bad? No because NO ONE DOES! STOP INTENTIONALLY HARMING OTHERS AND CALLING IT A JOKE ITS REALLY NOT FUNNY WHEN YOU LOOK AT THE STATE OF HUMANITY IN OUR SOCIETY. Be honest if you don’t lie you have nothing to remember or hide. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Not everyone understands or thinks as you do and that is beautiful! Imagine if we all felt safe to just be ourselves without pretending to have this amazing life all the time to keep appearances up!! Especially in a world where we are all messed up! Look life isn’t hard and no one is coming to save us the job is up to us! Things change when you change them and I know I love you all and I want a better future for our children and grandchildren to come.
When you think to say this doesn’t effect me remember you may be doing amazing with your child and when they get older they run into the abused child who is hurt and angry and they get in a relationship. He/she never healed and eventually it begins to show unfortunately because no one told her/him it’s not okay to behave in these ways or do these things he continues thinking it’s normal. He/she ends up harming your grown child emotionally, mentally, physically or worse… don’t you wish someone would have helped that boy before he turned into the abusive man your child’s with now? Or at least called him/her out on their shit when they watched it happening instead of saying it isn’t my place? Tami Irizarry
The thing they won’t mention is that I tried to prevent this all along.
I used my words and spoke my truth they are absolutely aware of all they do. I choose me.
There is nothing more I can do, I’m done with the undercover in my face not so hidden abuse.
You used my love for you and my family against me to try and manipulate and control the narrative, I see your game I want no part in it.
You made it clear you don’t value anything I say and don’t want to hear anything that I have to say, that’s not a conversation that’s simply you speaking at me… well that seems one sided so I’ll excuse myself there is no reason for me to waste my time or energy.
You spoke lies about me to cover yourself and that’s just fine, I wish you well.
So yes I changed I found my worth your pain is something I never deserve. So no I have nothing to say, no I don’t care to spend time, I’ve tried with you and I’ve had my heart broken a million times.
I love you it’s true but that’s as far as it goes I love sharks and venomous snakes, Im also not stupid it’s not safe to get close.
Unpacking and healing the baggage of life.. let’s take a walk together as we find a better way. 