See someone like me doesn’t speak without concrete evidence. Although I am kind and lead my life in love and grace.
I am also fully aware. I was being taken advantage of by those I chose to keep in my life, I believe in unconditional yet I am not stupid so now it’s time to change it up. While I love you I will no longer allow your toxicity to spread like cancer in my life.
I’m kind not stupid. I just don’t like to give up. I am someone who truly believes that with love anything is possible. I chose to stay in hopes that showing them a better way forward.
I gave opportunity after opportunity for change, unfortunately for all coming into my life that’s no longer an option.
If you want a healer pay for one, or heal yourself so that you can stop destroying the good people in your life. We’re tired of trying and to be honest we’re moving on with our lives.
I would much rather be lonely then surrounded by fake love and games. I love being alone that’s a non issue, I love my company.
What I don’t love is not trusting those who say they love me. Love isn’t just a word to be used it has an actual meaning, love acts in love not pain.
Perhaps it’s time for people to understand love. Love isn’t toxic, love isn’t pain, love isn’t abuse. Love is healing, love is true so if you’re unaware of what love is I’m sorry I’m no longer interested in hearing from you.
I know this sounds bitter but trust it’s not.. see I have true love in my life and it’s the greatest blessing I have ever received. This post isn’t for me it’s to help maybe show you a different perspective about life.
I’m 44 I shouldn’t be at this point, yet here I am and disgusted with humanity. I’m aware of how fucked up that thought is, are we ready to be honest and real?
None of this will ever change if we don’t speak freely. We need to have these hard conversations about how abusive behaviors make us feel and the damage it has caused in our adult lives, how to identify them.
If you have been a child of abuse understand there’s a great chance that you will pick up a toxic relationship or many on the journey. Only we can stop doing it or stop it from happening to the future generations.
The thing is abusive and toxic relationships are only romantic relationships, it’s can happen in any relationship in your life.
Anyone in your life can abuse you, it’s your job to identify it and place firm boundaries. You are your biggest advocate act like it!!
As long as we stay silent, as long as we pretend not to see or hear the abuse we watch others endure, we are the problem!
We are enabling the abusers and intentionally making the victims believe they’re unseen and their suffering doesn’t matter because it’s the societal norm.
News flash we watch you, laughing, agreeing, shit talking, looking the other way and no speaking.
Perhaps we aren’t aware that everyone was not given the same privileges or foundations in life. We didn’t all receive the same upbringing, the same level of stability, safety and security.
I was raised in absolute abuse and neglect , so when all my personal and romantic relationships kept the same pattern I had grown up learning, I didn’t know it was abuse I believed this was normal and that was my life.
Don’t you see we need to speak, educate each other and help everyone understand. A better way forward isn’t a job for one it takes all of us! Save our children and future by understanding the past.
Toxic assholes reproduce and recreate more toxic assholes.. their toxic assholes abuse the kind souls eventually they destroy them and suicide and murder spikes.. are we listening yet?
The whole world needs a parenting lesson me included I was toxic and fucked up too, if I can admit it and do better.. what’s your excuse?